Couple Therapy

 

Relationships go through periods of disconnection, and it's not always obvious how to find your way back to each other. Whether you're stuck in the same argument on repeat, feeling more like roommates than partners, or want to strengthen a relationship that's already good, couple therapy gives you and your partner a structured space to understand what's happening between you and to change it together.

How couple therapy works

We use Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), the gold standard for couple therapy and one of the most researched approaches to reducing relationship distress. EFT works by helping you and your partner identify the pattern of behaviour that keeps you both stuck in cycles of conflict, while also supporting each of you in getting underneath that conflict to the more tender emotions that often drive it—things like a fear of disconnection or feeling unimportant. When a partner is able to witness and understand these emotions, conflict tends to de-escalate and closeness becomes possible again. Your therapist works with each of you to understand and accept these more vulnerable parts of your partner's experience, so you both become less reactive with one another and your bond becomes more secure.

Who this is for

Couple therapy tends to help partners who experience:

  • Recurring arguments that never seem to resolve

  • Feeling disconnected, distant, or more like roommates than partners

  • Difficulty trusting each other after a breach of trust

  • A desire to strengthen an already-good relationship

  • Major life transitions putting strain on the relationship

Please note that if one or both of you struggles with violence in the relationship, or an intense relationship with substances, it may be better to address that in individual therapy before beginning couple work.

In-person and virtual sessions

We see couples in person at our Aurora office and virtually across Ontario, including Newmarket, Richmond Hill, Vaughan, and Markham. Evening and weekend appointments are available with select clinicians.

Billing is on a sliding scale with select practitioners—see our Fees page for details, or check our FAQs if you have questions about getting started.

Let's Start Here

If you and your partner are ready to work on your relationship together, get in touch and we'll help you find the right fit on our team.